What is S & M in SM play?
SM play is Sadism & Masochism play where pain is a active point as a sexual stimulant. It is totally practice of your imagination just to enhance the sexual play. Couples implement their desire and thought in each other whether it is painful or pleasurable.
The S is Sadism, the one who do sexual pleasure/gratification of “pain and suffering” upon another person. He/she get being sadistic violent and cruel on the partner and cause pain to him/her. Sadism can be men or women. Sadism find sexual enjoyment to deliver the pain to partner by hurting, humiliation and punishing him/her. Sadism can also known as Master and Dominant partner in BDSM world.
The M is Masochist, the one who suffer. He/she inflict the pain whether physical or psychological on oneself either by oneself or by others. Masochist loves the violet act done by sadism partner. He/she bear and enjoy all the punishment and hurt done by sado. Masochist can also known as Slave and Submissive partner in BDSM world.
The S & M involve various activities to enjoy the SM play like spanking, flogging by spankers & ticklers, knife play, biting, scratching, hitting, branding, clamps and clothespins, using other SM sex toys like bondage handcuffs, spankers, mouth gag, etc. Cock and ball torture done by chastity belts.
Misconception of S&M play?
Although SM play with light bondage or extreme bondage is mutual understanding between the partner and enhance the bond between them. It is appealing for some people, but it doesn't mean that SM play is free pass to hurt and harm their partner. We have to right to consent to activities, but it is on you what to do and what not. End and pause the activity if it does not work for you. You can negotiate the terms of your S&M relationship with partner.
SM play is all about previously discussed. There is nothing that masochist does not know. The surprise thing is not for SM play. The masochist is one that suffer and inflict the pain and pleasure, so it is compulsory for him/her to know about all your acts.
SM play is not about picking up list of various S&M activities, but it is about how intense play will be for you and your partner. For example you are using floggers and rope bondage. Instead try different act and inflicting pain, make it sensitive. Soft sensation can also gives you intense play. Whether it is fine to get more intense during some session. but you should prefer to stick that activities that has less pain and more pleasure. There is no right and no wrong in SM play, it is depend on you and your partner acceptance. Being cruel and selfish is absolutely wrong.
How to get into a bondage or S&M play?
It is not possible to enter all of sudden in the SM play with partner. Here I am advising you that will help you to get in the SM play.
First, you have to teach your partner about SM, What SM is?, How it enhance sexual play?, etc. Let know your partner's thinking about SM. It is good to set mood if you buy some light S&M gear like flogger, handcuffs, etc. Leave it to your partner.
Discuss SM things to your partner and your dirty fantasies when you are cozy with him/her in the bed. Try to make dirty talk with him/her o get comfortable. Implement biting, scratching or holding down your man’s arms during sex. It is light SM activity that leads to exciting SM play.
You your partner get ready to experience the SM play and both of you get enough knowledge to enjoy it, then try SM play. You surely liked it. Discuss each other's needs and desires, expectation and goal, that how you reach and fulfill your SM wants.
Safety tips for SM sex toy in India
• Couples do not engage in SM play or any other BDSM activity if you are not ready. Especially masochist partner. They gives power to others to inflict pain on them. She/he has to suffer lot, so it is necessary to prepare for it either mentally or physically.
• You always go slower. Slower than you think you need to. Like you are preparing to spank partner. It is ideal to start with slow spanking. Staring slow help you and your body to get more intense pain and pleasure. The slow stimulation arouse and work more in sexual act.
• You should be careful with the hitting, flogging, etc. The hitting on the internal organs such as the kidneys can cause some serious effect and injury.
• Be prepared with the first aid kit like a scissor, sharp knife, bandage, etc. Scissor that can cut cuffs, chain, etc in serious situation.
• It is ideal to prefix some safe word. Discuss them to your partner as sign, so he/she can use to let know when he/she feeling uncomfortable.